Showing posts with label prayer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label prayer. Show all posts

Monday, December 10, 2012

Day 10

Happy Birthday Eden! Today Laura's daughter Eden turns 9.



It's strange how fast she's grown. I remember when Laura announced she was pregnant. We were both trying to have children at the same time. I was SO excited for her, and then so confused when I never became pregnant. I became jealous and angry at my circumstance. Laura was amazing as she tried to understood my pain and I tried to understand her joy. We walked together. Joy & Sorrow. We were traveling full time on the road with onetimeblind and I spent every day with this amazing little girl Eden. We've developed a very special relationship & I love her so much.  I can't help but imagine that I might have had a child this age as well. Or even older. But that's not my story.

Tonight I am tired and doing laundry. I really want to go to bed early tonight. We have an early appointment tomorrow and I need my rest! I'm out of medicine starting in the morning. I called and talked to my nurse who told me that she has some for me if I need it for tomorrow night. That will give me a day to order more if needed. Otherwise we will be assigned to do the big shot! YIKES! I know it's coming soon...I'm just trying to think happy thoughts. If I look like I'm ready to go to retrieval tomorrow morning then the nurse will mix our meds for us and draw a bullseye on my butt so drew knows exactly where to give it to me that night. The meds will trigger me to ovulate and then 36 hours later I can have the procedure for retrieval. All of this is happening soon! If it doesn't look like I'm ready, then I will order more meds and go back the following morning until I am ready. But again, retrieval is soon! I'm a little scared about the big shot, but I know it's a temporary pain so I just assume I can take it for a short amount of time. And I'm a little scared about the procedure, but again, I know these doctors have done this a million times. It's all nerve racking as well as exciting. :) I know God has a plan, so I rest in that.  There are a million things that could go wrong. And also a million things that could go right. It's just life, ya know? Things happen, but as drew once said, 

We can always hope because there's always a tomorrow

and I agree. 


Tuesday, May 08, 2012

He hears me.


He hears me. 

I didn't mean to get everyone all excited on Facebook about what has changed in my life.  I actually forgot that people are waiting to hear "big news" that we are pregnant.  So right away let me say WE ARE NOT PREGNANT! :-)  When that happens there won't be any code to decipher.  Trust me, you will know.  It's actually something better than that.  


Quick Storyline explanation.  Storyline is a conference put on by Donald Miller who is the author of A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, Blue Like Jazz and many other writings.  His conference is about teaching you that your life is a epic story. And if you draw your life out on a timeline you will see that.  He encourages us to live life to the fullest, to create great stories.  As the conference went on, my friend Tomi and I were feeling overwhelmed with much of the information that we were being given. (If you would like to hear more of my thoughts on the conference, let me know) Throughout the conference Donald would talk about his friend Bob Goff.   He sounded like an interesting man, but most of the people interviewed this weekend were interesting.  







**coffee break for back story**










October of 2011 I was driving home from work and listening to NPR when I heard a radio piece that rocked me to the core.  It was about a community in Uganda and the atrocities that were happening there.  You can read the article here.  Basically it was a community run by witchdoctors who convinced all the people that if they had a human sacrifice done for them they would have good fortune.  But it couldn't be any human sacrifice, it had to be children.  The witchdoctors would steal children and depending on what type of blessing you wanted they would maim that child in certain ways, the biggest blessing was cutting off the childs head.  They would convince the locals to have these sacrifices and bury the children's body parts in the ground under their businesses to guarantee financial success.  Of course you had to pay the witchdoctor to do this, and although it was expensive the people would do it because they saw it as an investment.  The officials knew this was happening, but because it was very discreet they couldn't catch any of the witchdoctors in the act and therefore could do nothing. And because the bodies were buried they were no witnesses or evidence.  Then one day, a boy was discovered who had been mutilated and left for dead, but he didn't die.  NPR talked about the hopes that this boy was the one and only witness who might help the case.  

This story seemed unbelievable to me.  There are families that are missing children because they were kidnapped and having their bodies cut into pieces with a machete.  I wondered how I could go home and make dinner and watch tv after hearing this story.  I wondered how we would feel or react if that was happening in my neighborhood.  I wondered if the Ugandans would care.  I wondered if I would.  I cried all the way home.   I shared this story with Drew and then with friends.  I couldn't get this off my mind yet I didn't know what to do with it.  This is one of my biggest problems.  I see the injustice of the world, but can't think of how to solve it.  I wouldn't make a very good president.  So I prayed.  I hate "just praying" for things like this.  It doesn't seem enough.  I'm a doer and prayer doesn't feel like doing.  It feels like a cop-out when you really don't want to be involved.  We say "oh…that's awful, I will pray for you".  And maybe we will, but I feel what I'm really saying is "oh…that's messy, I don't know how to solve that for you, so good luck because I really don't have time to be involved".  Sometimes all a person really needed was food or a pair of shoes or maybe some time for someone to listen to them.  But this issue was global.  It was big, too big for me.  I resolved to pray not knowing how I could ever change a community in northern Uganda.  

**coffee break over…back to work**





One of the cool parts of Storyline was Don would interview amazing people who have done amazing things with what God has given them.  One man worked in the clothing industry, so he started making t-shirts to sell to help people afford to go to rehab and get rid of addiction.    













One man was a councilor but wanted to be a philanthropist.  Although he had no money he decided to write a children's book and give anything he made from the sales of it to charities in need.



The last person interviewed was this man named Bob Goff



He is a bit hard to describe as he is very excitable when he speaks.  There is no way you can't fall in love with this man in about 10 seconds.  He really enjoys life.  He started by telling the story about how he met Don Miller.  Bob is a lawyer living in California who owns a cabin way out in the middle of nowhere.  This cabin is on a river and is only accessible by boat or plane.  You can't drive there.  He uses this facility to host kids from Young Life Ministries.  Don Miller was on a kayaking trip with friends and just happened to go by this cabin.  Bob saw them and invited them in for food.  So they got to know one another.  Bob was sharing this with us and then asked Don if he could also share his work that he was doing in Uganda.  I assumed he was another missionary doing missions there.  

Bob began to describe how he wanted to do more in life.  So he flew to Uganda and because he was a lawyer and that was all he knew to do, he went to the Justice Department and made friends with a judge there.  He asked that judge what the greatest need was in Uganda and how he could help.  This judge started explaining about how witchdoctors were taking over and killing all of the children, and they can't catch them, they can't stop them.  But that a young boy had been recently found.  He was kidnapped, taken to a field and had his privates cut off.  He was left for dead, but he didn't die.  So for the first time they actually had a witness that could speak out against the evil that was taking over Uganda.  One boy against one nation of evil.  But he needed a good lawyer. 

I couldn't believe what I was hearing. 

So Bob takes the case.  He not only prosecutes that witch doctor, but opens the door for many other to be prosecuted.  Also because that man was put in prison for life, people began to loose faith in the word of the witchdoctors.  How could they believe these successes that come through sacrificing children would work for them when the Dr. himself was in prison?  Bob recently received guardianship over that little boy in Uganda.  Not only that, but Bob "randomly" met one of the worlds best surgeons who reconstructed that little boys penis.  Now he has been made whole again in every way.  The story doesn't end there though.  Bob went back and spoke to that witchdoctor who begged for forgiveness.  And through a long conversation, Bob forgave him and that witchdoctor came to accept Jesus.  And now that man is going to speak to everyone else in the prison about Jesus.  Men who enter this prison, never get out.  It's a big, square, no window, cement building.  They are going to die there, but now they can die with hope.  A hope that they will live again.  They have a deeper Peace and forgiveness, one they never thought they could deserve or have. Bob has also had the opportunity to speak to groups of witchdoctors that are still practicing in that area.  He gave them his phone number in case they wanted to talk. LOL.  One called while he was at a the conference this weekend. 

After hearing all of this I had to take a moment and breathe.  From the moment that I realized Bob was talking directly about something that I had been praying for months about I couldn't stop crying.  Honestly, it was because I couldn't believe once again that God hears me.  Not just on a personal level, something I could see everyday, but on a GLOBAL level.  I know it wan't just my prayers that made all of that happen…or was it?  What we do matters. What we say matters.  What we PRAY matters!  I know this. I've known this.  But it's always so humbling when God actually takes the time to reveal it to me.  Bob wasn't supposed to be at the conference. He said he was traveling through and just stopped to share with us.  But God thought it was just that important that I get to hear the end of the story.  Why was that important?  He feels my heart.  He wanted me to know….He hears.  I don't know if you have ever felt that special.  For the God of ALL to take time out of billions of lives to make sure that you know He hears you-that He loves you.  OH MY WORD-- THAT IS OUR FATHER!!!!!  He really, really, really, does love us that much.  He takes the time and sends me to a conference that I knew nothing about  & wasn't going to go to so that I could randomly hear a man who wasn't supposed to be there speak about something that I heard randomly on the radio 7 months ago and how God has miraculously redeemed that story. I was gloriously set up.  I just..can't..believe..it.  I really can't.  


What else really matters but being heard and loved by God?  I mean, really. 

Thursday, April 07, 2011

sorrow

I feel like crying tonight.  It is strange.  I was in our first choir rehearsal at church tonight and all of a sudden I had an overwhelming urge to cry.  I AM depressed, I do know this.  But I can't figure out how to push through and be content.

"Why so downcast o my soul? Put your hope in God"

I don't feel like talking to anyone.  I don't feel like my life has TRUE meaning.  Isn't that weird?  I even find that a strange sentence, but it's how I feel right now.  Being busy hasn't given me meaning.  Nor has sitting still.  I keep praying for God to speak to me but He has chosen silence.  Well--except for the hundreds of random hearts I see all day long that he showers me with.  I know, I know, its special.  It is special.  I know I'm loved.  I know I'm not forgotten.  I know all of this.  I'm just tired.  I'm tired of trying.  I'm tired of knocking only to find one more door closed.  I told my friend the other day I don't think I'm a fighter.  I just don't have it in me anymore.  I told her maybe I just don't want to be a mom bad enough.  Or maybe I wouldn't make a good mom.  Maybe we never were meant to be parents.  I'm feeling pretty inadequate.

And I wonder why it has to be in my thoughts all the time.  I hate it. Yet I can't get rid of it.  And every time I do have sanity for a moment I get an email from a teen who needs advice on how to tell her parents that she is pregnant.  Or I find out that yet another one of my close friends is having ANOTHER baby.  Did I mention I'm tired?

We are trying to push through and go with our only option, foster care/adoption.  It's not our first choice.  But then I hate any process that makes you 'choose' a child.  I hate the paperwork and the personal questions.  I hate having to figure out and explain where my hypothetical teen will go to school 13 years before I even have one. I hate having to prove that I'm a good person and get letters from friends, family, co-workers, pastors, and my dog to agree with me.  I wonder why getting pregnant it's so hard for some, yet a once mistake for a teen?

Madness. sorrow.

I hate talking to moms sometimes.  Many of my friends are moms.  Most of them are understanding and don't treat me like I'm an ignorant 20 year old, but every once in awhile someone will give me that "well-that's what's it's like to be a mom and you don't know that because you aren't one" face.   Basically I want to punch them. In the name of Jesus of course.

I just want direction.  I hate feeling lost without a goal.  After Hawaii I felt maybe we should try to adopt again and just get more agressive about it.  But, so much money.  So expensive.  Friends of ours told me they had decided to adopt last June.  They found the money.  They just got picked and will have a baby in their home by May.  I wont.  Maybe because I'm not aggressive.  Or maybe its just not my turn.

We've prayed.
We've done accupuncture.
We've seen holistic Dr's.
We've looked into adoption.
We've tried  fertility treatments.
We've prayed more.
Now, we are on to foster care.

I feel sorrow.  and I dont know why.  Maybe I feel sorrow for the unfairness in the world.  That there are people who have had an extremely hard life and yet life doesn't let down and their misfortune continues into adulthood.  It's not fair that the world is a broken place where some waste food several times a day and others don't have any.  It's not fair that some people, maybe even your neighbor, have never heard 'I love you' or felt love from another person.  It's not fair that even though you try and try and try sometimes you still dont end up winning.  Life sometimes just isn't fair.  Unfairness will come.  It does come.  So when it does, how are we going to react to it?

I know I have to move past this unfairness.  I'm actually surprised to see that I haven't.  I feel like I'm on a merry-go-round that never stops.  I feel great and then not.  I feel content and then not.  I feel like we can do it and then not. It reminds me of when my parents past away.  I would wake up in the morning and remember, 'oh yeah, they are dead'.  Then I would cry and get up and start my day.  Sorrow didn't last forever then, and it wont last forever now.

I'm trying.  I'm getting up everyday and trying. I guess for now that's the best I can do.